What I thought was forgiveness was actually just releasing blame
Last week at our support group we read an excerpt about forgiveness from Love in a F*cked Up World by Dean Spade. The concept of “forgiveness” has always elicited a […]
Expect Resistance
Hello, dear friends. I hear over and over again about how people desperately want to make a change in their lives, but have no idea why they can’t make it […]
Socializing while sober & anti-capitalist resistance
Hello, dear friends. At our support group last week we discussed socializing while sober. Let me just say, this ain’t the first time that this has come up, and it […]
Why you don’t just feel better by now
Hello, dear friends. I have been thinking about this concept a lot lately. Sometimes it seems like we are doing everything right, yet we still feel lost. We think to […]
1:1 Recovery Coaching Now Available!
Hello dear friends! I am writing you on a Thursday because I’ll be driving to Wisconsin tomorrow. A dear family member is dying of prostate cancer. He’s said he is […]
The Impulse to Punish Myself
At our support group last week we discussed the impulse to punish ourselves by using substances. This is a common reason we get fucked up, and the impetus might just […]
Is Patio Season Waking Up Your Inner Addicted Voice?
Hello, dear reader. Have you been practicing identifying your inner addicted voice? That thing can be a wormy little fucker. It can be like a game of whack-a-mole. “Wow the […]
Worrying is Normal
Hello, dear friends. I have always been a worrier. It seems like everyone in my family is worriers. At times, I have wondered if the worrying is epigenetic in nature […]
Where is our sober third space?
Hello my dear friends. If I had a nickel for every time I have heard someone wonder: This Substack is reader-supported. To receive new posts and support my work, consider […]
FEAR: Face Everything And Recover?
It can be really rough to wake up one day and look around yourself and see only rubble. The guilt. The shame. The pain. My addiction took no prisoners. If […]